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Types of Abuse

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THERE ARE MANY TYPES AND DEGREES OF ABUSE.

Here is a checklist to help you consider if you are being abused. All of the following are abuse:

PHYSICAL ABUSE

pinch
burn
push/shove
choke
restrain
withhold medical treatment
pull
break bones
shake
cause internal injuries
slap
disable
bite
disfigure
pull hair
use guns
punch
use knives or other objects as weapons against you
kick

PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE

threaten
break things
speed in vehicle
destroy property
display weapons (guns, knives, belts)
threatening to kill you
control who you see/talk to
control what you do/where you go
act jealous
move residence frequently
threatening suicide
Minimize/Deny Blame
say one thing/expect another
deny abuse happened
make light of own actions
say that you’re crazy
not take concerns seriously
blame you for their abuse
tell lies

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

make all the decisions
force you to listen to them
play mind games
force you to do degrading things
deny your feelings/ideas
use guilt
withholding affection
use the silent treatment
continually wake you up
tease

VERBAL ABUSE

yell at you
insult you
call you names
use sarcasm
swear/profanity

INTELLECTUAL ABUSE

make you prove things to him
attack your ideas and opinions
play mind games
manipulate information
demand perfection
tell you you’re crazy
make you feel stupid

FINANCIAL ABUSE

call welfare
close bank accounts
limit access to money
waste money and create debt
make you account for every penny
not pay child support
control the money
take care of own needs only

PETS, PROPERTY ABUSE

kill or threaten pets
damage the vehicle
punch walls and doors
smash and break things
throw things

SPIRITUAL ABUSE

put down your faith
soul murder
cut you off from your church
use scripture against you
use church and faith to his advantage

CHILD ABUSE (Using the Children)

abuse children
belittle you in front of your children
threaten to harm or take children away
use visitation as leverage
refuse to make support payments

SOCIAL ABUSE

isolate you from your friends and family
dictate who you can see
prevent you from working
monitor phone calls or mileage

USING CULTURE

use his culture as an excuse for abuse
force you to adopt his cultural practices
put down your culture
allow his extended family to abuse or control you
refuse to allow you to learn Canadian culture

SEXUAL ABUSE

make you dress a certain way
not respect your feelings when you’re not interested in sex
not respect your feelings when you’re interested in sex
make you perform unwanted sexual acts
demand too much sex
use sexual harassment
force you to watch pornography/watch or have sex with others
physically attack breasts or genitals
have sex after a beating or argument
have violent sex
expose self inappropriately